Resources
The Resources section includes:
Readings: a bibliography of books, articles, and links to other materials related to parenting and couple relationships. These materials support and supplement what is in Conversations in Coparenting and provide references for the classes.
READINGS
David Bach. Smart Couples Finish Rich. Broadway Books, New York, 2001
This book is designed for older couples who are more settled in their careers, but the basic points about understanding each of values and having them match how you actually live are good for all couples of any age.
Diana Barnes, Psy.D. and Leigh G. Balber. The Journey to Parenthood: Myths, Reality and What Really Matters. Radcliffe Publishing, Oxford, New York, 2007.
Shawn Bean, Show Dad How: The Brand-New Dad’s Guide to Baby’s First Year. Parenting Magazine, Eds. Weldon Owen Reference, Inc. 2011.
T. Berry Brazelton,M.D., Joshua Sparrow, M.D. Touchpoints, Birth to Three; Your Child’s Emotional and Behavioral Development. Da Capo Press, Perseus Books Group, Cambridge, MA (2006).
Brazelton’s book explains how babies can seem to “regress”, go backwards in development, just when they are about to achieve a new skill, like walking. It helps parents, be prepared for, understand and be less anxious about these normal developmental changes. The book describes in detail each of these key “touchpoints” and also covers Challenges to Development, like asthma, bedwetting, and divorce.
Gary Chapman. The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts. Northfield Publishing, Chicago, 1992. And online at http://www.5lovelanguages.com/
Wonderful for understanding how to make your partner feel loved, particularly if your love languages are different.
Gary Chapman, Jennifer Thomas. The Five Languages of Apology: How to Experience Healing in All Your Relationships. Northfield Publishing, Chicago, 2006.
By understanding your different languages, this book will help you repair after an argument.
Carolyn Pape Cowan and Philip A. Cowan. When Partners Become Parents: The Big Life Change for Couples. 1992. Basic Books
This is the classic in the field, one of the first books to focus on the transition to parenthood and to present research. It is written primarily for clinicians and researchers, but is so well written that it is also good reading for parents.
John Gottman, Ph.D. and Julie Schwartz Gottman, Ph.D. And Baby Makes Three. Crown Publishing, Random House, New York, 2007.
This is an excellent, fun to read book which covers much of the material in these classes and adds more. Good exercises. Highly recommended. Available on Amazon.
John Gottman, Ph.D with Joan DeClaire. Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child: The Heart of Parenting . Simon & Schuster, New York (1997)
Excellent explanation of Emotion Coaching and how to stay in touch with your child. This will also help you be good, supportive co-parents, on the same page.
Tricia Goyer. Life Interrupted: The Scoop on Being a Young Mom (Mothers of Preschoolers (Mops)). (2004) Zondervan, Grand Rapids, MI.
Easy to read, practical. Written by a mother who’s been through it.
Jonathan Haidt. The Happiness Hypothesis: Finding Modern Truth in Ancient Widsom. Basic Books, New York, 2006.
Francine Jacobs, EdD, Ann Easterbrooks, PhD, Mistry Jayanthi, PhD. The Massachusetts Healthy Families Evaluation-2 (MHFE-2): A Randomized Controlled Trial of a Statewide Home Visiting Program for Young Parents. Final Report to Children’s Trust of Massachusetts, September 30, 2014. Eliot-Pearson Department of Child Study and Human Development, Tuft University, Medford, MA. Available from Children’s Trust.
(See also: Progress Report, Fiscal Years 2011 and 2012 and Progress Report, Fiscal Year 2013)
La Leche League. Sweet Sleep: Nighttime and Naptime Strategies for the Breastfeeding Family. July 28, 2014. La Leche League International.
Howard J. Markman, Scott M. Stanley, Susan L. Blumberg. Fighting for your Marriage, 3d Ed. Jossey Bass, 2010
Markman developed a well-know marriage program called PREP (the Prevention and Relationship Enhancement Program). The books comes with a DVD for couples.
Howard J. Markman, Scott M. Stanley, Susan L Blumberg, Natalie H. Jenkins, Carol Whitely, 12 Hours to a Great Marriage, A Step-by-Step Guide for Making Love Last. Jossey-Bass, 2004
Dr. Rachel Y. Moon. SLEEP: What Every Parent Needs to Know. American Academy of Pediatrics, September 2013. This can be ordered from www.HealthyChildren.org
Kevin Nugent, M.D. and Abelardo Morell photographs. Your Baby is Speaking to You: A Visual Guide to the Amazing Behaviors of your Newborn and Growing Baby.Houghton Mifflin Harcourt Publishing Company, New York, 2011. A beautiful picture book of how babies communicate.
Carolyn Pirak, LCSW and John Gottman, Ph.D. “The Transition to Parenthood”. Booklet published by The Bringing Baby Home program. Can be purchased at www.bbhonline.org
Pruett, Kyle D., M.D. (2000) Fatherneed: Why Father Care is as Essential as Mother Care for your Child. Broadway Books, New York.
Richard C. Schwartz, Ph.D. (2001) Introduction to the Internal Family Systems Model
Penny Simkin, PT, and Phyllis Klaus, CSW, MFT. (2004). When Survivors Give Birth: Understanding and Healing the Effects of Early Sexual Abuse on Childbearing Women. Classic Day Publishing, Seattle, WA